Custody

Pet

Mediation

When couples separate, the family pet is often the hardest thing to figure out.

Most people navigating divorce don't know how to reach a pet custody arrangement that actually works longterm — for themselves, or for their pets. That uncertainty is often costly: emotionally, financially, and for the pets caught in the middle.

I'm Karis Nafte — certified dog behaviour consultant, mediator, and author of Who Keeps the Dog, a reference guide used by lawyers and mediators across the USA, UK, and Australia.

I help divorcing couples reach pet custody agreements that are fair, practical, and sustainable for everyone involved, including your pet. Together, we will focus on your needs, the legal process, and what is in the genuine best interest of your dog, cat or parrot.

Pet custody mediation is voluntary, private, and reaches a written agreement — without the cost, conflict, or loss of control that comes with going to court.

I work online with clients across the USA, UK, Australia, and South Africa.

Book a free introductory chat— let's talk about your pet, your situation, and how I can help.

When mediation is not an option.

Every divorce is different, and mediation isn't the right fit for every couple. If your situation makes mediation difficult or impossible, I can still help. I offer guidance on the pet custody landscape, your available options, and practical next steps. Where appropriate, I also provide arbitration and expert witness services.

Karis Nafte with her Australian Cattle Dog, Sam

Endorsement by Patricia McConnell, author, PhD, CAAB Emeritus:

“Some of my most difficult consults have been about “who keeps the dog” when couples are separating. If only I’d had this thoughtful, practical, and compassionate book to hand my clients!  Karis Nafte has all the skills needed to write this book—regarding canine behavior, the law, and as a practicing consultant. It’s the perfect addition to any consultant shelf, and for anyone facing difficult decisions about their beloved dog.” 

Endorsement by Kenneth Cloke, Author The Magic in Mediation and Mediating Dangerously :

“Karis Nafte has written a unique, important, and highly useful book about a problem that is so common you would think dozens of books would have been written about it. As a divorce mediator, I have encountered many bitter disputes over pet custody, yet as a mediation trainer, I find it largely ignored – probably because Karis Nafte’s book had not yet been written.”

I heard Karis speak on several excellent podcasts about who keeps the dog and this book is written with the same compassion and insight….
— Emily Huber April 2025

This book is phenomenal, Karis is the pet custody expert, and perhaps the only one. Her guidance is so valuable, and allows couples to truly understand what is best for their pet...
— Mike Cohen, USA March 2025

This book is an incredibly valuable resource written by someone who has deep insight into dog behaviour and human nature (especially in conflict)...
— Samatha Hardy, Australia August 2024
  • "Splitting up is terribly hard and knowing you have expert counsel on how to manage the dogs makes one burden much easier to bear. She talked me through options and explored the drawbacks and benefits of each option. I left the meeting feeling confident I could make a sound decision for all involved."

    Paula Fendley, Texas, USA

  • "I recently completed the pet custody mediation course with Who Keeps the Dog and I couldn’t be more delighted with the experience! The course was engaging, practical, and expertly delivered, offering deep insights that go far beyond the usual mediation training."

    Dannielle Young

  • "My husband and I did a consultation with Karis to discuss a co-ownership situation that was heading towards mediation. Karis was caring, informative and supportive. She met us with empathy and talked us through our options. We were so pleased to have found a mediator that was very knowledgeable of dog behavior and kept the dogs needs at the forefront of the conversation.”

    Beth B, Dog Behavior Consultant, Florida

  • "I am extremely grateful for Karis and all she does for pets. I contacted her while in the midst of a messy divorce, concerned about losing my dog. Thank you again for your help, your compassion, your sympathy, and your expertise. It means so much to me in this difficult time. I highly recommend anyone with concerns about pet custody contact Karis!”

    Ali, New York

  • "Karis is so great!! I have seen two of her programs and have learned so much that I can use in my mediation and law practice AND with my own dog and cats. I live around the world and would only use Karis for any help that I need!!"

    Gwen Letine Pennsylvania, USA

  • “Karis Pet Custody Course for Animal Behavior Consultants was highly insightful. Her knowledge and experience in this rare field are outstanding,”

    Nikki Finn-Loudenslager CDBC - Arizona

  • “The Pet Mediation training course was so informative. Karis brought decades of knowledge to the course and presented it in a logical understandable manner.”

    Dari DeSousa, PHR - California USA

  • “Karis really has mastered both the mediation world and animal behavior. She switches hats effortlessly and has produced a valuable course.”

    Laura - Mediator, California USA